It’s our second visit to Dr. G. Guess what? We’re normal. Not a thing is wrong with us. We are so relieved, we’re smiling. In fact, we’re a bit smug. Ha! Take that, infertile world! We are normal!

But wait. If we’re normal and nothing is wrong… why is it not working? Dr. G- suggests that we head straight to IVF. Whoa there, Nelly! I am not — repeat, not — interested in invasive in vitro. That is like science fiction and we’re normal, right? Surely there has to be an easier way. In fact, says Dr. G- there is: intrauterine insemination or IUI. Although she recommends using Clomid, the success rates are low, about 10 to 15 percent for unexplained infertile couples. Apparently our diagnosis is “unexplained infertility.” It’s better than having something wrong with one of us, we think. How wrong we are, we find out much, much later. In the world of infertility it is much better to have a problem that can be fixed. But this is in retrospect. Way back at this second visit, IUI sounded like the perfect plan.

The husband is so grateful that I’ll try this — try anything at all — he is floating on cloud nine. Wow. Well, we’ll see how it goes, I think to myself and tell him that this is as far as I’m willing to go. How little did I know.